10 Things I Learned in my Early 20's

I just celebrated my 25^th Birthday on Wednesday! Dude I am in my mid twenties...

GAAAAAAHHHH in no time I will be 30.

*sigh* Time slow down please.

But I have learned so much in my early twenties and I want to share the hard lessons I have learned.

Ready….

1. I am NOT old.

Maybe to a 5 year old but generally I am not old…Old is like 90. I aint there yet! Lol. I keep hearing people my age say they are old, and I am just like uh uh nah bruh! This girl right here is at a great age honey! So my advice please embrace and take advantage of your 20's don't waste them. Do all the things that you have always dreamed of doing! You aint old girl!

2. It's ok to Make Mistakes

 I was the type that hated to make mistakes. It was like if I made a mistake I was the worst person on Earth. (Dramatic Much?) I felt like mistakes made me look bad and I just hated making them. But in these few years I have seen that mistakes are not bad but they are a great way to learn. If I never made a mistake how would I learn? I am seeing my mistakes as an opportunity to learn and grow and also to develop character. I have to constantly remind myself that mistakes are ok! They are a part of the journey!

3. Always Put God First

This lesson is a hard lesson to learn because it is something that is always forgotten. When God is first in your life everything else falls into place. Trust me I know! There was a time where I didn't put God first and I found that things got harder and harder. When you put God first you are saying that you trust him no matter what your situation looks like. Making God your first priority is key to a blessed and prosperous life. It's not always easy but it is necessary.

4. Love Wisdom

Wisdom is described in the bible as something that is more precious than rubies and gold. In my teenage years of course I didn't seek after wisdom or surrounded myself with people who were wise. A lot of the time wise words are not what we want to hear. Even in my 20's there are times where I am stubborn and I don't want any wisdom! But the more I grow and the more I get older I realize that wisdom is important. Proverbs is a great book full of wisdom, I am reading it now and I am being blessed by it. If you lack wisdom get wisdom!

5. A Few Good Friends

Remember in high school when we were all caught up with making a lot of friends and walk around with an entourage. oh…That was just me?! I realized very quickly that most of the people I hung out with in high school were no longer going to be in my life anymore. It sucks. especially when it  involves people that were like family. smh... it hurts. But the one thing I love about God is that he will ALWAYS replace what gets taken away. Friends have come and gone but I currently have friends that I consider my family. I don't need a HUGE group of friends my little circle of GREAT friends is all I need.

6. Still Single?

 For as long as I can remember being single was a bad thing. I used to feel horrible that I was single! I just love the little quote above, reminds me that I am exactly where I need to be in life. If you are 25 and still single…SO WHAT! use the time you have now to work on you! I view singleness so differently now and I am learning everyday how to be content in the season that I am in. I am not going to sit here and say that waiting is fun and easy, NAH FAM! It gets hard because sometimes I wonder if I will ever get married and bear children but If it happens it happens. If it doesn't then it doesn't. This is the best time of your life appreciate every moment.

7. Relax, Don't Worry About The Future

Worrying about a future that is totally out of your control is useless. Just know and have faith that your future is in God's hands. I am sure that he has something special planned for each of us! I wasted time worried about what was going to happen. Where and how I was going to get my education, When I was going to get married and have children, What kind of mother and wife I would be, How I was going to fulfill my purpose in this world…etc. My mind was always busy going 100 miles per minute. The moment I relaxed and trusted God I realized that I didn't need to know the whole plan. I just needed to trust and follow him. So no worries here!

8. Don't Beat Yourself Up

Something so crazy happened to me on Sunday. I mean I am still beating myself over it, y'all don't know! Story is I had a solo in church on Sunday and I practiced for weeks for this solo and guess what? I butchered the thing! I sang a bad note for so long…lol. But good thing was I kept on singing and my pastor got on a mic and helped me out. LOVE HIM! I just felt like I wasn't good enough and I was so embarrassed. After service regardless of my gross note people were still blessed by it. That's all that matters! Ministry is about others and glorifying Christ and not about me. I may not be the best singer or the best worship team leader but God makes up the difference in the areas I lack. Sunday was a bad day for me but I am learning that beating myself up is not the answer. God was pleased and people were blessed. So don't bother beating yourself up for mistakes you made. Remember it's ok to make them just learn from them and move on.

I should take my own advice...

9. Save. Save. Save

I can't tell you how many times I had to re-learn this lesson lol. I am the type that spends, why have money sitting around when you can spend it!! That's foolish logic that has gotten me no where! I am 25 with bills, a car note, and loans I really need to start thinking about saving for my future. Just because money is in your wallet doesn't mean you need to spend it. Usually what I do is I ask myself this question when I am about to make a foolish purchase. DO I NEED THIS RIGHT NOW? This question has saved me many times! I do have a savings but it's good to have another one somewhere especially in a different bank. Also be careful with them store credit cards, those will get you into some trouble! bottom line SAVE SAVE SAVE!! Especially if you want to move out or get married, weddings are stupid expensive.

10. Enjoy Everyday Like It's Your Last

Plain and simple, enjoy your life! Live in the moment! Do all the things you have always wanted to do. Travel. Meet new people. Network. Learn new skills. DO SOMETHING! God wants us to live a beautiful life he even said in his word "I came to give you life and life more abundantly". Take risks and if you fail get back up and try again. The older I get the more desires I have to do the things I have always wanted to do. One of those things was starting this blog! Also living your life to glorify God is the best thing you can do! What you do for Christ will last, so make everyday count. Love unapologetically, unconditionally, with no regrets.

Happy 25th Birthday to ME!